There are many circumstances in our lives which prove so difficult that staying on this planet is sometimes questionable. I haven’t met a person who hasn’t at some point considered just not being here. It isn’t so much about a violent removal of life but rather a “just waking up and being somewhere else moment”. Whether we wish to physically leave or just “check out” of our responsibilities in living, we must come to understand that we are all connected and that in that connection is over-riding wisdom, help, compassion and LOVE!
Loss of a loved one, loss of a job, a living space, friends and relationships are way up there on the Loss-o-Meter of life. Any one of these losses can trigger many deep seated insecurities, unspoken from the past, compounded by the emptiness this “leaving” has created. When we speak of the depth of losing we also must understand the fear that goes with it. We become afraid that we will never love that way again, or be able to create another job that is right for us again. And certainly if we have lost someone who has passed over the ache can convince us that we can never experience that person again.
The next few posts will address loss and all that continues with the process of walking through our losses with grace, wisdom and understanding. For today, we will think of the losses which have been most significant for us. We will write them down and place them in the order of intensity that we have experienced them. Then we will gauge our energy around each loss…from the worst to the least horrible and damaging. Taking inventory in this way will help all of us to understand the levels of our experiences and as such we can then begin to infuse unconditional love and forgiveness into each situation.
This is a very dramatic part of recovery. We are not going to erase the memory of a loved one or forget we ever lost a job etc. But we are going to facilitate our own recovery and placement of each loss in a way that will help us walk forward in our lives making the best of each day with what we DO have in our lives.
I love you…Please forgive me…I am sorry…Thank you!